Curve Ball of LIfe Tips

Curve Ball of Life Tips
   This year has thrown a ton of curve balls at me. It was like I was standing in front of one of those automatic baseball pitching machines set on the highest setting. We all know that unexpected events happen throughout the course of our life but man, I must have opened the pandora's box of curve balls cause it's been rough.

   Now I am not complaining about my life because in all actuality it's really good. I have a loving wife and wonderful kids. I also have a good family to back me up. I am very grateful for my life and everything that has brought me up to this point and made me who I am today.

   However, what I am focusing on here is how to help others who like me are burdened down with stress from a recent move, family, friends, finances, education and other stressful situations. Unfortunately the help I am offering isn't money or an answer to  everyone's stressful situations but it is simple advice I have received over time and some information I've found online during my research. I figured if it's helping me then it might help someone else.

   1.  Please don't get discouraged. We all have trials and tribulations that we face everyday. Nobody's situation can be as worse or less important than someone else. The reason for that is because some where in life someone has either faced what you're going through or is going through something similar to what you're dealing with right now. Remember you're not alone. The world is a big place and you have people like me that will take the time to listen. I honestly believe that having someone to listen helps a lot. We sometimes get over loaded and discouraged because we feel that no one cares. Although the world is a selfish place, there are people that try their best to help.

     In addition to not getting discouraged, take time out to take a breath. Being able to walk away and calm down if your upset or stressed really helps. Its like a veil falls down from over your eyes and your  able to think clearer and address the issue better. Your still breathing and walking so that means what you're dealing with hasn't killed you. The sad fact is that if we don't get our stress under control then it could lead to some health issues such as a hearth attack. When we are stressed, our heart beat is elevated which in time could wear out our heart. I don't want to see this happen to me or anyone. That is why I began searching for ways to deal with stress and other curve balls that life has thrown at me.

     2. Don't be afraid to admit when you are at that breaking point. By all means, tell someone if your have reached the point that you're not able to take any more. It is better to get help than let the darkness encompass you and tear you apart from the inside. I know this from experience. I have seen it as well. There is no shame in seeing a psychologist if your to that dark part of the path where everything fells like it's closing in on you. We cannot control everything. If we could, life would be so much easier. Your alive and kicking and there are people out there that thrive off seeing you healthy and strong. We sometimes forget about the ones we hurt when we let the darkness take over. The darkness can be anything negative or harmful such as depression, suicidal thoughts, stress, anger..etc.

     Take one day at a time. That is what my Dad always told me. I always looked toward my dad for advice but a majority of the time I never took it. I wish now that I would have but it's not good to live with regrets. Keep moving forward. Do something to take your mind off the problem for a while if it's getting at you so badly. I know there are some situations that prohibit you from being able to do that. Those problems need your immediate attention and need to be resolved fairly quickly. Just don't rush into things like I have in the past and evaluate your choices. Pick what's best for you. It's easier to deal with a negative situation with a calm and collective mind set and attitude.

     3. What are your options. Turn over every stone. Look through every open door and attempt to unlock doors that are closed to you by circumstances such as not having transportation or help from an individual. If there is a will, there is a way. It's just hard finding a way sometimes. This doesn't seem true with everything and sometimes it's not. This is just something my dad told me, which I later learned that it was his way of saying that if you want it bad enough, you will find a way to get it. I believe this 100% of the way.

     4. Keep your chin up.  Finally, keep your chin up. As my friend James Howell always told me, a solution will present itself all we need to do is sometimes be patient. This however, isn't me telling you to sit still and do nothing but wait. What I am saying is get out and make every attempt to solve and fix the issues you're having. It takes effort, sacrifice and patience among other things to accomplish anything. We sometimes limit ourselves through fear and wanting to be accepted or maybe it's the need to be assured that we're making the right choices. These issues are a direct affect of being controlled or being too dependable on others to put their two cents into what they feel that you should be doing with your life and time. It's your life. Be grateful for your parents and others who have helped you but don't ever let anyone control your life and tell you what is good for you or not. Listen to advice but be discerning when accepting any type of advice.

    In conclusion to this blog, stress is mainstream of our life. It's hard to avoid at times but it can be dealt with. These are just a few tips and some advice I've gotten throughout the years. I hope it was informative and inspiring to you. I hope to hear from you so leave a comment below in the comment section. Let me know if this was helpful or if you have any other advice or ideas.